As an introvert navigating life in a new country, I’ve come to understand the delicate balance between building connections and honoring my need for solitude. So a month ago or so, when the weekend arrived, I found myself faced with a choice: accept the invitations that had come my way and push myself to be social, or embrace the joy of missing out and spend time alone. I chose the latter.
At first, I questioned my decision. After all, I had moved here a year ago, and I knew that forming a community was crucial. But deep down, I recognized that my energy levels were running low, and I needed to recharge. So, I gave myself permission to spend the entire weekend at home, just me, my cherished dog, and a world of peaceful possibilities.
As I settled into my coziest pajamas and lost myself in the pages of a long-awaited book, a sense of contentment enveloped me. This was precisely what I needed – a chance to reconnect with myself, to indulge in the simple pleasures of solitude, and to find joy in the quiet moments.
The weekend unfolded like a soothing melody. Leisurely mornings filled with aromatic tea and snuggles with my furry companion. Afternoons spent exploring the depths of my own creativity, whether through writing, painting, or immersing myself in a new craft. And in between, gentle walks through the neighborhood, just my dog and me.
As Sunday evening arrived, I realized that I hadn’t missed out on anything at all. Instead, I felt more centered, more in tune with myself, and more prepared to face the world than I had in a long time. It was a powerful reminder that as an introvert, honoring my need for solitude is an act of self-care and self-love.
Ladies, if you’re navigating the midlife journey as an introvert, know that embracing JOMO is a path to inner peace and rejuvenation. It’s about recognizing that your energy is a precious resource and that taking time to recharge is not only acceptable – it’s necessary.
If you’re looking to incorporate more JOMO into your life as an introverted midlife maven, consider these strategies:
1. Set Boundaries With Kindness
When you need alone time, communicate your needs to your loved ones and new acquaintances with gentleness and clarity. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish – it’s essential.
2. Create a Cozy Sanctuary
Whether it’s a corner of your bedroom or a quiet spot in your garden, carve out a space that feels like a haven just for you. Fill it with things that bring you comfort and joy, and retreat there whenever you need to recharge.
3. Embrace Your Unique Interests
As introverts, we often have passions that we love to explore on our own. Whether it’s reading, writing, gardening, or any other solo pursuit, give yourself permission to dive in deeply and unapologetically.
4. Practice Self-Compassion
Remember that your introversion is a strength, not a weakness. Be kind to yourself, celebrate your unique qualities, and know that taking time for yourself is a powerful act of self-love.
Midlife is a time of transformation, and for introverts, embracing JOMO is a beautiful way to nurture that growth. It’s about recognizing that true fulfillment comes from within and that sometimes, the most meaningful experiences are the ones we create for ourselves.
So, the next time you find yourself craving a weekend of solitude, give yourself permission to embrace it fully. Revel in the joy of missing out, and know that you’re giving yourself the greatest gift of all – the gift of self-care and self-discovery.
Susanne Rieker is the founder of Midlife etc. She moved to Majorca in Spain with her pup Luna, loving the slow island life in the Med. She’s also a business coach, helping women in midlife build a purposeful online business. Follow her on Instagram @susannerieker.
