Learning to Release the Old You and Trust What’s Emerging with Dagmar Spremberg

Some conversations don’t arrive with a plan. They open something in you instead. That’s how it felt sitting down with yoga teacher Dagmar Spremberg. I’ve known of her work for years, but I didn’t realize how much her story would mirror the quiet, disorienting transitions so many of us face in midlife.

Dagmar spent more than two decades in Costa Rica, where she built a life and community around Montezuma Yoga. From the outside it looked like the dream so many women imagine: warm weather, meaningful work, a life built from intuition. But when the studio closed unexpectedly in 2021, everything she had created disappeared almost overnight. Instead of trying to rebuild what was, she followed an inner pull back to Europe and eventually found herself on Mallorca.

What we talked about wasn’t just moving countries or changing careers. It was about what happens when the identity you’ve carried for years suddenly no longer fits.

When the Life You Built Stops Being Yours

There’s a particular grief in letting go of something you poured your whole heart into. Dagmar didn’t leave Costa Rica because she was done. Life moved, and she had to respond to that shift. She didn’t try to force herself back into an old version of her life, but that didn’t mean the transition was simple.

She shared how confusing it can feel when what once felt aligned suddenly stops holding you. There is love for what was, but also a quiet knowing that trying to revive the past would come at a cost to yourself.

The Body as a Truth-Teller in Midlife

We also talked about something so many women experience without language or support: the body changing faster than the identity that once lived in it. Weight gain, injury, less energy, and a different relationship with movement are not failures. They are invitations to slow down, to soften, and to release the version of yourself who once relied on certainty and willpower.

Dagmar was honest about the discomfort of not recognizing yourself in the mirror. Not only physically, but energetically. Aging asks for a different kind of listening.

Living in the Space Between Identities

There is a season of in-between that many women will recognize instantly. You are no longer who you were, but not yet sure who you are becoming. Dagmar didn’t rush to fill that space. She let herself arrive in Mallorca without immediately creating something new, and that choice holds a quiet kind of strength. It is one thing to say you’re open to change. It is another to live in the space before the clarity arrives.

Losing and Rebuilding Belonging

One of the things that struck me most was how strongly she spoke about connection. Not in the sense of building an audience or a business, but in finding real belonging again. Leaving a long-term community means losing a version of yourself that was reflected back to you every day. Rebuilding that in midlife doesn’t happen quickly, and she is still in that process. There is something very human in acknowledging that we’re not meant to reinvent alone.

Trusting What You Can’t See Yet

Dagmar’s story isn’t linear or polished. Maybe that’s what makes it so grounding. She didn’t offer a five-step path or a neat conclusion. Instead, she showed what it looks like to live in the middle of becoming without pretending or rushing or clinging to what used to be.

If you’re standing at the edge of something ending, or if your body, work, or relationships no longer feel familiar, this conversation might feel like a mirror. You’re not broken. You’re in transition.

If this speaks to where you are right now, or where you quietly sense you’re heading, I hope you’ll listen to the full conversation. There is something deeply reassuring about hearing from someone who didn’t plan to start over yet is choosing to trust what’s unfolding!